Scarlet Letter anyone?

I'm over here on my death bed and can barely move and no one is checking on me. Fuck you all to hell! I'm just kidding. I have the flu and my friends that know have checked on me and asked if I need anything. I'm so grateful for them all. One even brought me meds, soup and juice offered to take me to the doctor. That kinda brings me to my latest thought or whatever... I have one friend who people keep calling a hoe and at first it really bothered me. I mean a lot of people have said it...even guys I've dated but I haven't mentioned it to him or anything. I'm not even sure that I should. Whenever someone brings it up, I just say well he's a good friend to me so that's really all that matters. One person I dated even asked if we've had sex! Now I have no way of knowing whether my friend is spreading is pb&j all over the milky way or not and I don't really care as long as he's not reaching in my bread box. Very rarely have I even heard him talk about having sex with anyone so it's just hard for me to believe that he is. The most important thing I've learned from all of this is that everyone has a past. Unfortunately, we all are judged on our pasts and usually unfairly. How would you feel if every single mistake you've made followed you around all of your life? How'd you feel to be Hester Prynne (The Scarlett Letter)? If you haven't read The Scarlett Letter I blame your high school educational system. But basically, the woman has an adulterous affair and has the man's baby. She was not only put in prison, but when they let her out, she had to wear a scarlet letter "A" to make everyone aware of her crime. That's some deep shit!  I try to always give people the benefit of the doubt and not totally judge them based on something that someone else has said. Who's to say that I'll have the same type of experience with that person or that he/she hasn't changed? I'm just glad that "people" don't decide my ultimate destination when my life is over. Otherwise, none of us would make it into heaven.... Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future is what I've been told. I agree. I feel that people can change but once you get a reputation, it's extremely difficult to shake. My philosophy is that there's always a hating ass hoe waiting to trip you with her stiletto...